The Capacity To Be Alone Is The Capacity To Love!

“The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love! It may look paradoxical to you, but it’s not. It’s an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person without possessing  the other,without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be happy as much as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken away by the other, because it is not given by the other.”

                                                                                                                                                ~Osho

 

To let this existential truth manifest in our lives, we need to have good connection with our inner self first, only then can one truly connect with others at the core level. This helps in building a solid foundation.

Try to understand yourself at all levels and discover your true inner self. Other’s view about you are just assumptions. No one knows you more than you yourself. Take time to get to know your subconscious self and decipher it. This can be achieved through constant awareness and deep meditation.

Who is the real ‘you’ behind yourself,Try to know this!

And then only can you Rebuild a bridge to that reality that resides deep within you, which gets hidden due to the constant suppression by negative thinking , stress and worrying.

 

“The desire for connection with the Divine and our formless inner self is at the foundation of all desire for human connection.”    

                                                                                                  ~Donna Goddard

                                                                            

What are your views? Do share them in the comment section below !

 

What Is Meditation ?

 

The word Meditation, is formed from two Latin words:

meditari ( to think, to dwell upon, to exercise the mind)

and

mederi ( to heal)

There are several definitions given for meditation and what it is. Here i will write based on my personal understanding and experience of practicing it.

Generally, it is considered that meditation is based on worshiping or prayer. It is not so!

Meditation to me is awareness. Meditation means to shift our awareness inwards, to explore, observe and communicate with our true inner self. It is turning inwards to free yourself from the chaos and distraction of the external world and constant chatter of your own brain.

Meditation is a technique to attain a state of consciousness, where the mind is free of scattered thoughts and their repeated patterns. In such a state, all the activity of the brain is reduced to one.

While meditating, when some thoughts come to your mind, don’t focus on them, don’t react to them, just observe them i.e. just be a Witness  and let them pass, let go.

Meditation is a means of transforming the mind. With regular practice of proper techniques, the consciousness can be expanded to a great extent and you can easily reach state of deep meditation.

WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS OF MEDITATION ?

There are numerous benefits of meditation which have been proven by scientific studies. Here i will list some major ones:

1. Enhances emotional well being- one learns to be more calm, less anxious and fearful. Meditation also helps in decreasing depression.

2. Enriches your Soul, by guiding us towards our true essential nature of happiness, love and joy

3. Improved concentration levels

4. Attainment of Enlightenment or Supreme Bliss.

5. Reduction in stress level.

6. Improved general health and increased energy level, leading to more efficiency.

7. Improved immune system.

HOW MANY TYPES OF MEDITATIONS ARE THERE ?

Meditation techniques can be classified broadly under these five categories:

1. Concentration Meditation

2. Mindfulness Meditation

3. Reflective Meditation

4. Heart-centered Meditation

5. Creative Meditation

In my next post i will elaborate on different types of meditation.

BE BLESSED !

HAPPINESS IS YOUR TRUE NATURE !

Three Day Quote Challenge-Day 3

 

Quotes are like mini books. A few lines convey lot of information and sometimes it is very profound.

DAY 3 QUOTE :

 

 

Every one in the world is seeking happiness but it seems to be ever elusive. Are we looking for it in the wrong places and directions? OR Is it that we are confusing happiness with pleasure?

In this day and age when hype and hypocrisy are almost the norm, most often we look for instant gratification. We assume that it will make us happy. We look for constant external stimulation to keep us in perpetual state of happiness and feel overjoyed by the external gratification we receive.  BUT this feeling is short-lived,temporary. We get engulfed and entangled in the ever expanding web of negative pride, false flattery, become trapped in our false identities and exhaust ourselves in the rat race.

And that leads us to the burning question : what causes this?

Most often the problem is the subliminal messages-the mainstream media, the wider culture, society and the marketers beam into our psyche. We become victims of borrowed perceptions. We start believing the fake claims that are made although they are false, contrived and manipulated.  

We live in an overwhelmed world with more than we can handle. We soon become aware of the imperfections of the material world we inhabit.

Let us stop for a few moments, to consider and reflect ! To cast aside illusions and get to the heart of reality. True happiness lies in the satisfaction when we are connected to our inner core, when we are in total sync with our true nature; we have to look within us and ponder deeply. External gratification is only an” Escape Mechanism” from the dissatisfaction and confusion in the deeper recesses of our mind, and that is no match for true happiness.

Let us find some middle ground which is not too idealistic for the real world and search for our corner of eternal, long lasting happiness. I am sure it lies somewhere within each one of us. To recount my own experience, i have had short glimpses of this nectar, at times, during meditations…when time almost stands still, it is a blissful state and i am consciously aware of that moment. I long to revisit that experience again and again…it is so intense. May be this is the stuff which qualifies as true happiness. I am still working my way towards it !

 

What do you think ?  What have your experiences been ? I’m  really interested in knowing, please share !

 

 

The Rules Are:

1.  Post three consecutive days.
2.  You can pick one or three quotes per day.
3.  Challenge three different bloggers per day.

 

Today,being the last day of the challenge i leave it open to all the bloggers who ever wish to take up this activity. I want to share this wonderful opportunity with all the bloggers in my list.

I sincerely thank Stella from giggles and tales for nominating me !

Dear bloggers- i hope you will take up and enjoy this activity.

Have fun and happy blogging 🙂

 

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