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The Capacity To Be Alone Is The Capacity To Love!

“The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love! It may look paradoxical to you, but it’s not. It’s an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person without possessing  the other,without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be happy as much as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken away by the other, because it is not given by the other.”

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To let this existential truth manifest in our lives, we need to have good connection with our inner self first, only then can one truly connect with others at the core level. This helps in building a solid foundation.

Try to understand yourself at all levels and discover your true inner self. Other’s view about you are just assumptions. No one knows you more than you yourself. Take time to get to know your subconscious self and decipher it. This can be achieved through constant awareness and deep meditation.

Who is the real ‘you’ behind yourself,Try to know this!

And then only can you Rebuild a bridge to that reality that resides deep within you, which gets hidden due to the constant suppression by negative thinking , stress and worrying.

 

The desire for connection with the Divine and our formless inner self is at the foundation of all desire for human connection.”    

                                                                                                  ~Donna Goddard

                                                                            

What are your views? Do share them in the comment section below !

 

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Abandoned Warehouse and The Chosen One

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Nearing the end of our day trip to Mahapalipuram- a coastal town near Chennai; my friends Victor, Nick, Steve, Joel and I decided to stop at a roadside stall for a cup of steaming hot coffee.

The trip had been amazing. We enjoyed to the fullest and were tired to the bones, now just wanting to get back to our college hostel and crash on our beds. So, before we reached our hostel, we decided to stop for coffee in order to refresh ourselves a bit. I had been driving for long and was quite tired. I really needed that cuppa.

Soon, we restarted our journey back. The sky was getting heavily laden with clouds. This being the monsoon season, rains were a common occurrence in the evenings, so the dark clouds hardly bothered any of us.

It started raining heavily at the time of dusk. Just then, the car engine started making weird noises and I  found out that we were low on fuel. Now, this was something unexpected and worrisome.

It stopped right near a broken down building in the middle of no-where. All our efforts to restart it and at least drag it to the nearby repair shop proved futile.

We looked around to find some shelter and save ourselves from the heavy down pour. At some distance we found a building which looked like a warehouse. We decided to take rest and spend our night there before we went in search of a mechanic to repair our car, the next morning.

We took our belongings out of the car and hurried towards the warehouse. The lights inside the spacious hall were on, but no one responded when we rang the door bell. Just then, Joel gave a little push to the door and it sprang wide open.

Victor and Joel barged inside immediately without waiting for anyone’s permission, in order to escape from the heavy rain, that was now hurting on our skin like stones.They thought it was the perfect place to take shelter and spend the night. I was too tired to retaliate and dropped down like a dead mice on a near by mattress which lay spread on the floor .

 

I don’t remember when I dozed off to sleep, but I woke with a start. I was sweating profusely. The atmosphere in the warehouse felt miserably cold. When i looked around i found i was all alone in the big hall.

“Where are the others?” I wondered. “Might be searching around for something to eat, hungry fools” I chuckled to myself.

 

The eerie silence was broken by a deafening scream from the far end of the warehouse. Victor came rushing towards me and switched on  his powerful emergency flashlight. It was enough to flood most of the parts of the warehouse with light.

“What happened? Are you okay?” Victor asked. “Yeah I’m okay” I said, rising up.

“Then why did you scream?”

“No, it wasn’t me. Must have been someone else.” Victor’s face turned pale.

“Where are the others?” I asked

“Long story. It was Joel who saw” a weird shadow” peeking through the window first. Joel thought that the person might be the owner of this place and could help us in getting some thing for dinner. So, he went in search of the person but didn’t return after a long time. That got us worried.

Tensed, we decided to go and search for Joel. We split into two groups. We thought one would stay here and one would go in search of Joel. It has been a long time since Nick and Steve have gone in search of Joel. While they were gone, I saw that shadow again. I switched the light on and saw nothing. That’s when I noticed Joel’s shoe near the entrance……” Victor stopped for a break.

 

“And as i moved towards the shoe, I saw bright lights on the far side in the direction where Steve and Nick went. Just to snuff out the chances of grabbing someone’s unwanted attention, I switched the light off.”

Victor stood up at this point. “I decided to stand guard…. That’s when I heard the deafening scream.”

 

Suddenly, the mighty flashlight started flickering and went out. “But I wasn’t the one who screamed”

“Then who on earth screamed?”

 

We didn’t move at all. We didn’t even make a single sound. Then slowly we saw Nick and Steve get closer to the warehouse hall. Slowly, Victor’s flashlight came back to life. Victor explained everything to Nick and Steve while I scanned the warehouse with his flashlight.

 

“You know what? I think we should check that little hut where you saw those  bright lights.” Nick said.

Victor was not pleased with the idea “Are you out of your mind?”

“Do you have a better idea?” I interrupted.

 

We slowly crept towards the hut and opened the door. We were in for a surprise. The hut only had a door, it didn’t have a roof or other walls. Something gigantic which looked like a big machine was safely kept there, hidden under empty boxes and barrels. It had all sorts of weird machinery and lights in it.

 

“Hands up Homo sapiens” a voice said behind us.” Oh! so these folks were the origins of the mysterious shadows”, i wondered aloud. The aliens had been occupying the desolated abandoned warehouse. That gigantic machine was their spaceship.

“Help us get out of here. Do not dare to stop us. We don’t mean any harm to you.” The  two aliens said.

“What do you want?” I asked, both astonished and worried.

“We need your help, we have run out of fuel. Can we take it from your car? said one of the aliens.

“But how can such a small amount of fuel as available in our car be useful for your big spaceship to fly you back to your planet” I inquired.

“Oh! no worries there! our spaceship is based on an advanced mechanism and is thus very fuel efficient” answered both the aliens in unison.

 

One of the aliens charged his gun and aimed at us. Due to some force, we were not able to move at all. He fired. It was something like a camera flash. All others dropped down and started snoring.

Just then, I noticed Joel in the same condition, lying on a bench nearby. So, that must have Joel who had screamed earlier, probably when he was shot at by alien’s sleep inducing gun.

 

On seeing me standing, the other alien muttered something to his buddy. They discussed something for a while and then collected the fuel from our car, gathered their supplies and loaded the spaceship.

“Your friends will be fine. Trust us. Don’t tell about us to anyone and  YOU ARE THE CHOSEN ONE.” saying this he sat on the other seat and THREW A BOX AT ME.

“SOURCE OF UNLIMITED MENTAL ENERGY,  Pretty outdated for us, but really novel for you Homo sapiens”, said that alien.

The other alien again muttered something “Alas! My friend not trusting you.” saying this the other alien fired the same gun at me, but surprisingly, I didn’t get knocked out like others.

The spaceship’s huge engines revved up and I saw them take off for the return journey to their planet.

 

This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda.

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Overcome The Setbacks !

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We always get into something thinking it to be the best. Later, if we get into trouble or if the outcome is not according to our anticipated success or fulfillment, we feel crushed with regret.

We keep thinking and brooding about the negative instance in form of mistake for a long time. It even pops up in our mind without invitation to create unwanted ripples time and again.We feel helpless and hopeless. We seem to be lost on our way to the planned destination. These flashbacks to the experience, traumatise us often in the quietness of late hour.

Why is it so?

The reason could be our attachment to the ego and its inconsequential desires. Our ego feels good when it’s desires are getting fulfilled. When this does not happen, it tends to deviate towards sadness and depression. We get disappointed and regret our decisions. Our mental web of thoughts traps us and consumes us.

Also, our mind keeps going back to what has hurt our self-esteem. Certain negative experiences drain us emotionally by affecting us mentally and physically. We all have situations that go wrong. Setbacks or mistakes are inevitable in everyone’s life. Life does not always turn up the way we expect. But it is sheer  ignorance to slip into remorse again and again. As someone has rightly said “Worry is a misuse of power of imagination”.

How do we take ourselves forward by forgetting the mistakes or setbacks?

The right way would be to see things in a positive light. Realize that mistakes are part and parcel of life. Every mistake is an experience which come to teach us a lesson. At the moment, it might seem to be most disappointing and regretful but over the course of time it imparts the most valuable lesson. It might turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to us. We should learn from errors of judgement. If we fail, we can always try again in a much better way.

Be objective to the real situation. Retrain your mind to focus on the best that has come out of the situation. Chose the thoughts with awareness to meet our need of healthy living. Our brain needs help to defeat the negative inner chatter. By maintaining a journal of our negative thoughts, we can find out what triggers them. Stop negative self-talk as soon as it starts.

Try not to over-exaggerate the feeling of sadness. Consider it just a feeling like any other. Stop wallowing in self pity.  Thoughts are not always facts; they can be just figments of our over active imagination and could be way far from reality at times. The more you focus on the negative thoughts, the more power you give them.

Practice forgiveness and gratitude to be really positive. Forgive yourself for not being perfect. We are human, not God. Forgive others, to maintain the peace of your mind. Let past remain in the past. Don’t let it control your present or future. Stop overthinking. What’s done is done! Life goes on.

Believe, you can do better in the future. Turn setbacks into fuel for self growth.

REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK!

 

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Hope Shines for My Dream Job!

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Daily prompt : MONEY FOR NOTHING

If you’re like most of us, you need to earn money by working for a living. Describe your ultimate job. If you’re in your dream job, tell us all about it — what is it that you love? What fulfills you? If you’re not in your dream job, describe for us what your ultimate job would be.

The mere thought of my dream job fills my heart with sublime joy. Not that i don’t like my current job as a faculty at a management institute but at times my mind wanders to the fantasy land of day dreaming. In this magical world, i have long nurtured a dream of starting a wellness centre-” THE WELLNESS DEN” (named den-because i am a leo😊 )

This Wellness Den would be like a sanctuary to provide succour and respite to the harried souls battered by daily travails and trials. The focus would be on HEALTH in all its forms: physical, mental, psychological and spiritual.

The centre will have some of the best things one needs to live a wholesome life to achieve holistic health, like-organic vegetable counter, wonderful collection of books and music albums, a counter of fresh beautiful flowers and bouquets in assortment of colors, a counter for home made organic nutritious chocolates (i love making chocolates) and also a Healing Space.

This would be the place where any troubled, tired individual can cruise in to find solace and help. They’ll be able to soothe their eyes with soul-refreshing flowers, calm their agitated mind with inspiring books and music and also indulge their taste buds to uplift their mood with heavenly chocolates.

To heal their physical and psychological ailments, i would use my Pranic Healing skills to their best advantage. I will teach them meditations to help them find inner tranquility. I have always wanted to heal and cure people.

“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams, Live the life you have imagined”.

~Henry David Thoreau.

There was a time when i aspired to be a medical doctor, and for this i studied biological sciences till my graduation level. But over course of time i realised that the surgery aspect of medical course was something i would never be able to handle.( i can’t even look at an empty syringe for long). Hence i shifted towards management education. Still that inherent desire to heal didnot fade away and was residing within me. So i decided to learn Pranic Healing. I really feel empowered with the knowledge i have gained and i want to use it to alleviate the suffering of others.

In my little palace of serenity- The Wellness Den, i’ll  find my moments of joy by WRITING(something which is like oxygen to me) in my leisure time. I’ll be able to write at my own pace without a worry in my mind about the clock ticking away. And with so much bliss and happiness around, i think “writer’s block ” will not dare to stare at me even from afar. Maybe a time will come when i will spend my days writing awesome books and healing people.

Off course, i would charge a fees for the services in the centre to earn my daily bread and butter but it won’t be too high.I follow a simple basic lifestyle so even an average income will suffice. I don’t have any ambition for great luxuries in life. i just want to live a simple,serene life close to nature. My real gain from this endeavour would be the contentment i shall receive by being a source of solace and help to those in need, to see sense of relief and joy on the faces of those i heal.

Do i wish i had a magic wand to materialise this dream of mine as soon as possible ?

Yes sure, i do!  but things don’t manifest so fast in the real world. But the future holds endless possibilities. I hope my dream of starting and managing The Wellness Den turns into a reality sooner than later. Maybe a day will dawn when i will get to work daily as i dream of.

I am in total love with this idea and have cherished it for long. Even before this dream has been realised, it provides me immense joy and pleasure just to think about it.”I can escape  into this surreal place of bliss whenever i want”!

 

Money for Nothing

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SIX WORD STORY CHALLENGE :

This week the theme was Double Cross. Expressing something so complicated in six words is quite a challenge but it is interesting. These #stellarstorychallenge are real fun, open to all and you can post multiple entries.

These are my entries for this week’s challenge :

1.  He Went Away, Didn’t Say Why.

2. Promises Unfulfilled, Trust Broken, Dreams Shattered !

3. All Adulation Was Just Lip Service.

    4. Her Innocent Face Belied Her Intentions.

Vibrant Evening Sky

Photo challenge :

This week, share a photo of something vibrant. Vivid colors, a lively portrait, or perhaps a delightfully colorful landscape, if you’re in a warmer climate. Let’s wash the web with a rainbow of colors to keep the winter gloom at bay.

 

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Enchanting beauty of nature !  vibrant it is…

I captured this shot from my terrace one evening, just before sunset.

 

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HAPPINESS IS YOUR TRUE NATURE !

Three Day Quote Challenge-Day 3

 

Quotes are like mini books. A few lines convey lot of information and sometimes it is very profound.

DAY 3 QUOTE :

 

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Every one in the world is seeking happiness but it seems to be ever elusive. Are we looking for it in the wrong places and directions? OR Is it that we are confusing happiness with pleasure?

In this day and age when hype and hypocrisy are almost the norm, most often we look for instant gratification. We assume that it will make us happy. We look for constant external stimulation to keep us in perpetual state of happiness and feel overjoyed by the external gratification we receive.  BUT this feeling is short-lived,temporary. We get engulfed and entangled in the ever expanding web of negative pride, false flattery, become trapped in our false identities and exhaust ourselves in the rat race.

And that leads us to the burning question : what causes this?

Most often the problem is the subliminal messages-the mainstream media, the wider culture, society and the marketers beam into our psyche. We become victims of borrowed perceptions. We start believing the fake claims that are made although they are false, contrived and manipulated.  

We live in an overwhelmed world with more than we can handle. We soon become aware of the imperfections of the material world we inhabit.

Let us stop for a few moments, to consider and reflect ! To cast aside illusions and get to the heart of reality. True happiness lies in the satisfaction when we are connected to our inner core, when we are in total sync with our true nature; we have to look within us and ponder deeply. External gratification is only an” Escape Mechanism” from the dissatisfaction and confusion in the deeper recesses of our mind, and that is no match for true happiness.

Let us find some middle ground which is not too idealistic for the real world and search for our corner of eternal, long lasting happiness. I am sure it lies somewhere within each one of us. To recount my own experience, i have had short glimpses of this nectar, at times, during meditations…when time almost stands still, it is a blissful state and i am consciously aware of that moment. I long to revisit that experience again and again…it is so intense. May be this is the stuff which qualifies as true happiness. I am still working my way towards it !

 

What do you think ?  What have your experiences been ? I’m  really interested in knowing, please share !

 

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The Rules Are:

  1.  Post three consecutive days.
  2.  You can pick one or three quotes per day.
  3.  Challenge three different bloggers per day.

 

Today,being the last day of the challenge i leave it open to all the bloggers who ever wish to take up this activity. I want to share this wonderful opportunity with all the bloggers in my list.

I sincerely thank Stella from giggles and tales for nominating me !

Dear bloggers- i hope you will take up and enjoy this activity.

Have fun and happy blogging 🙂

 

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