The Capacity To Be Alone Is The Capacity To Love!

“The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love! It may look paradoxical to you, but it’s not. It’s an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person without possessing  the other,without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be happy as much as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken away by the other, because it is not given by the other.”



To let this existential truth manifest in our lives, we need to have good connection with our inner self first, only then can one truly connect with others at the core level. This helps in building a solid foundation.

Try to understand yourself at all levels and discover your true inner self. Other’s view about you are just assumptions. No one knows you more than you yourself. Take time to get to know your subconscious self and decipher it. This can be achieved through constant awareness and deep meditation.

Who is the real ‘you’ behind yourself,Try to know this!

And then only can you Rebuild a bridge to that reality that resides deep within you, which gets hidden due to the constant suppression by negative thinking , stress and worrying.


The desire for connection with the Divine and our formless inner self is at the foundation of all desire for human connection.”    

                                                                                                  ~Donna Goddard


What are your views? Do share them in the comment section below !


8 thoughts on “The Capacity To Be Alone Is The Capacity To Love!

  1. Sha'Tara

    The Osho comment is misleading in that he talks about love when what he should be talking about is compassion. Love is a reciprocal energy. It is impossible to “be alone” and to love, or to be in love! Love requires, not only a target, but the “lover” is also the reflection of what it loves. To live as Osho says here is to become compassion. Compassion is not a reciprocal energy, it is a “feat” of single-minded choice and power. The compassionate being is self-empowered and does not think or act based on “reactions” from others.
    The point also missed by Osho is that such a life demands complete detachment from any and all “special” relationships, and how many people are up to that, or willing to live thus? Imagine, no special friends, no family ties, no lover… that’s being alone. And that is the point where the “you” and the so-called “inner self” blend into one and the dichotomy disappears.

    This may seem bleak, hard, harsh – but there is a compensating factor: the compassionate being becomes thoroughly familiar with these two, and lives with them day and night: joy and sorrow. To know, and live, joy and sorrow is what makes a person human. Those who do not know this nor live thus remain pseudo-human with all the attendant woes, conflicts, pains and losses that entails.

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    1. writeintent1 Post author

      Thanks Sha’Tara for sharing your views. What you have expressed about being in love is absolutely correct…no doubts about it.
      But regarding the quote by Osho…the statement is about ‘capacity to love’ and not about being in love. So, i find it completely true and in no way misleading. Here i have shared my perspective based on my interpretation, learning and experience.

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